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in reply to: Anyone else struggling with this? #1514

Update:

I’ve been working on this for about 2 weeks now. I really appreciated Mouse’s encouragement, it made sticking with this much easier for me. To know that someone else has done it and had success, that was reassuring.

This still doesn’t come naturally to me. There are a lot of times that I think about if I am being a horrible mother, or if I’m being selfish by focusing on me. But, in those times, I just try and remind myself that I’m doing this for a reason. I am taking care of myself so I have the energy to take care of my whole family (not just my daughter). Once I get over that self doubt, I’m able to keep trying.

I started out small, going to the movies, or out with friends for coffee. And, honestly, I haven’t moved much past that. But it has helped. I’ve noticed that I’m less stressed. I remember actually having a good time (it’s been a while since I can say that). I’ve reconnected with friends, who have been really supportive. And, my calmness has made things with my daughter somewhat better. We are talking some, and I get glimpses of her. It’s a start, but a very encouraging start!

Thanks Mouse for the encouragement. I hope other people use this forum as well to get some help and support, it really worked for me.

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in reply to: Anyone else struggling with this? #1351

Mouse, your response is so logical and calm, it fills me with hope and makes a lot of sense. I’m really surprised that you’ve had that response from your loved one! That seems like a real added bonus, and some of the behavior changes that I’m hoping to get. I will certainly give this a shot, even though it still feels hard! Thank you so much for the support!

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