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in reply to: Is this enabling? #1347

Hi Mouse – First, your brother is very lucky to have such a thoughtful sibling and supporter…even if he is not thinking about these things , you are! CRAFT ideas and strategies are always a little harder to do and less effective from afar with less contact, because that’s sort of the nature of reinforcement strategies..the more they happen the more impact they have. From afar however, it seems like there are positive incentives that matter here…one of them might well be just having contact with you…you might well be an enjoyable and uplifting support for periodic conversations, and you could start with having those be only under the condition of sobriety during the conversation. Second, in terms of the piano itself, you could also draw up a timeline with him saying you are happy to pay the storage for a period of time, but that continuing to do so will depend on him making some concrete moves to get help/make changes. That way you can be supportive and give him something to aim for. And again, thanks for being such a support in his hour of need.

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