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      Hi all,

      I am hoping that someone here can help me figure this out.

      My husband has been working on recovery (sort of) but has had 4 relapses in the last three months.  =:O

      On Thursday he came home after work, totally drunk.  I had set my limit after the last relapse, which was to tell him ” if you’re drunk,  I don’t want you here in the house with me and the kids.”  So I told him he needed to leave.  And he refused.  Finally, after I just lost it and screamed at him he did leave. I don’t know what I would have done if he didn’t leave.

      I had felt like “you can’t be here” was a pretty important “natural consequence”, but somehow that night it was just so hard to get him to leave, it didn’t feel natural.  But I also feel that if I don’t stand up for myself with this limit that I have set, that I’m somehow allowing him to drink.

      I just don’t see any natural consequences happening for him at this point and in the end, it feels like it’s me that’s dealing with all the  ‘consequences’, since I have to feed the kids (ages 2 and 4), get them their baths, into bed, explain why Daddy’s not there, and I have to do it all by myself.

      I’m totally worn out and more than a little confused about how this is supposed to work!

      Thanks for listening.

       

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